Your relationship with yourself is arguably the most important relationship in life. Self-relationship is the foundation of everything else — even altruism. It's easy to identify pathological aspects of self-relatedness — negative narcissism, overwhelming shame about ourselves, overly solipsistic perspectives, an inability to relate to and empathize with others, and so on. It is likewise easy to identify traits which we associate with others being in a good place, having their act together, showing good interpersonal skills, appearing successful by conventional definitions, and so on. It's easy to take things for granted — even being able to focus on oneself in such a way is a marker of being very fortunate in the first place.